I remember (cringingly) an interview I had years ago. We tend to be so caught up in our own thoughts and self-doubt that we are not really present. We get distracted by our internal dialogue: “I must remember to do x, y, z”. How often when you’re talking to someone are you fully in the moment and engaged in what they are saying? Probably very rarely and this tends to be exacerbated in situations when we are nervous or uncomfortable. It means paying attention to what’s going on rather than being caught up in your own thoughts” (p.14) “Being present simply means having moment to moment awareness of what’s happening. “people will tend to accept whatever you project” (p.19) Fox Cabane’s Charismatic Behaviours 1). Something else which really struck a chord with me in the book – based on my own experiences – is that Again there are parallels here in terms of how we tend to view confidence, whereas I believe it is something we can learn and improve over time. She has dedicated her career to showing that it can in fact be learned, and now teaches and coaches charisma professionally. The charisma “myth” in Fox Cabane’s work is that charisma is something innate that we either have or we do not. It occurred to me when reading this that a great deal of her work, and in particular her three “charismatic behaviours” (and advice on how to develop these) can be effectively applied to improve your confidence. I recently (after having it on my reading list for way too long!) got around to reading Olivia Fox Cabane’s book “The Charisma Myth: Master the Art of Personal Magnetism”. Whether this be a general lack of self-confidence, or more specific issues around situations like interviews and presentations how we feel, think about and talk to ourselves are, in my opinion, the biggest influences on confidence. In this post I share tips for improving your confidence, through the lens of behaviour expert and author Olivia Fox Cabane’s work on charisma.Īs a Careers Consultant, confidence – or lack of it – is one of the things I most often see holding people back. Confidence – or at least being able to fake it ‘til you make it – will help you excel in these. These are essential elements of job search and selection processes but are things which many of us find terrifying at worst, or simply uncomfortable at best. Consumer Confidence! by Chris & Karen Highlandĭo nerves get the better of you in interviews?ĭoes the thought of networking or giving a presentation fill you with dread?
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